in the end i realised the answer to your question aint that difficult at all, but it might also not be something you want to hear.
the answer, i would say, is time. give it time. because time heals. and time proves everything.
then again, please take whatever i said with a grain of salt, because i'm an entirely different breed that stray from the usual girls thinking.
oh.and i'm no ice queen. your theory about me is so deeply flawed.